Body language and appearance falls under the non-verbal communication category. The power of body language is often underestimated. The fact is that no matter how wisely you choose your words, if your appearance or body language is not supporting the message you are trying to convey, it's not going to work. Body language is much more than making eye contact, firm handshake or continuously smiling (smiling is good but having a smile on your face all the time can make you look quite sheepish).
Following are some points that you must remember and apply in your business meetings and communications.
Getting the aid of appearance:
When we talk of appearance, it includes both.
i) Your appearance in oral communication
ii) The appearance of your message in written communication
Good brains are undoubtedly more important, but good looks do not go in vain either. In fact, they become essential if meeting with clients or making sales is included in your job description. Spend some of your earnings on buying good professional dresses, shoes, jewelry or perfume. As far as written communication is concerned, use good quality papers, envelopes, and most importantly a neat organized message. Typos or grammatical mistakes will also ruin the appearance of your message.
Body Language:
Your body posture, gestures, expressions, hand movements or your voice tone, each of them contributes in making your communication effective or ineffective. The sooner you realize it, the better your chances to improve. Imagine yourself in different professional scenarios and visualize your body language. Were you too aggressive or dominant when communicating with your subordinates? Did you have that closed body posture during the last business meeting you had? Do you think your interviewee noticed that you were nervous, even when all of your answers were reasonably good? Body language can convey some pretty useful messages even before you have uttered a single word.
Improving your body language:
Improving your body language takes practice and a lot it. It's not easy to change your gestures, movements or posture that you have been carrying since your childhood, but it's not impossible at all. Start from your facial expressions and voice. Make eye contacts when necessary; try not to reveal the negative emotions during business meetings from your face e.g. boredom, anger or tiredness. Record your voice and then listen to it. This practice will give you an idea on how understandable your oral communication is. Avoid making gestures as much as you can, especially if you are meeting some foreigners. Don't make unnecessary movements while talking; it will only distract your audience. You can even control your nervousness by just acting more confident. Ask your friends or family members to comment on your body language and if they are kind enough to point out some shortcomings, try to improve on them.
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Friday, December 25, 2009
The Art of Reading Body Language
One way of getting people to be more open to your ideas and suggestions is to be able to read their body language, interpret it, and change your strategy accordingly.
But how can we read people's body language?
Well for instance, if someone shows interest in what you say there are some tell tale movements that can give you clues.
They point their feet toward you.
They tilt their head forward.
The wideness of their eyes: The wider they are the more interested they usually are.
They maintain eye contact for more than 60% of the time.
They smile frequently. You have to be careful with this one though, an oblong smile back behind both sets of teeth is usually a fake smile.
If they tend to agree they will display signs like:
The palms of their hands are open
They put their hands flat on the table
They nod their heads
They unbutton their jackets
So what are some of the signs that people are lying?
They constantly clear their throat or swallow.
They tap their hands or feet.
They blink very fast.
They look elsewhere and avoid eye contact.
They shift position from one place to another.
As you can see this is just a small sample of ideas, and this subject is something that has to be studied for someone to become good at it. People also behave out of character sometimes, especially in high stress situations like in a job interview for example, so reading them becomes more difficult and you need more than one or two gestures to be accurate.
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But how can we read people's body language?
Well for instance, if someone shows interest in what you say there are some tell tale movements that can give you clues.
They point their feet toward you.
They tilt their head forward.
The wideness of their eyes: The wider they are the more interested they usually are.
They maintain eye contact for more than 60% of the time.
They smile frequently. You have to be careful with this one though, an oblong smile back behind both sets of teeth is usually a fake smile.
If they tend to agree they will display signs like:
The palms of their hands are open
They put their hands flat on the table
They nod their heads
They unbutton their jackets
So what are some of the signs that people are lying?
They constantly clear their throat or swallow.
They tap their hands or feet.
They blink very fast.
They look elsewhere and avoid eye contact.
They shift position from one place to another.
As you can see this is just a small sample of ideas, and this subject is something that has to be studied for someone to become good at it. People also behave out of character sometimes, especially in high stress situations like in a job interview for example, so reading them becomes more difficult and you need more than one or two gestures to be accurate.
John Osgood is a hypnosis enthusiast who runs the website http://www.hypnosismagicsecrets.com
John provides free information, Videos, Podcasts and Articles and the best educational resources available for people who want to take their interest in hypnosis further.
Subscribe to his newsletter now for an exclusive FREE Hypnosis Book. Go to: http://www.hypnosismagicsecrets.com/
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Your Body Language Speaks Volumes During an Interview
You are excited to be going for a job interview with the company of your dreams; or maybe it's just an interview with a company that is on the way to the job of your dreams. No matter; you have checked out the company and you are prepared for what types of questions they may ask you. You know their history and their future plans and you can see yourself in them. You even know what the people that work there wear so you're dressed for success for your interview. Even though you live in jeans, you will be wearing khaki slacks because that is the dress de rigueur for this business.
You may think you are ready for the interview but have you given any thought to what your body language is saying about you even before they scope out your clothes or hear your answer to their first question? There is evidence that suggests that a first impression is made within 3 to 7 seconds. That's not a whole lot of time to make a favorable statement, so what you do needs to really count. And according to Carmine Gallo in a recent Newsweek article, 55% of communication is visual, meaning body language and eye contact.
You want your body language to present the picture of a confident, interested and enthusiastic candidate for the job. So here, then, are some tips on what your body language is saying about you.
Let's start with the handshake. First of all, look at the person. Yes, you may be nervous but you don't need to telegraph that info right off the bat. So make eye contact with the person whose hand you are now shaking. And please, if you need to, shake hands with a friend beforehand and let them give you some constructive criticism. What to watch out for? Avoid the dreaded "dead fish" syndrome. Just as bad is the handshake where it feels like every bone in the hand is crushed beyond the possibility of reconstruction. Wait for the other person to first extend their hand, otherwise you may come across as too aggressive.
OK, now you are seated (and if it is not obvious where you should sit, ask politely). You would think that once you are in a chair that you could relax your vigilance about your body language but that's not how it works. Slouch in the chair or list too far to one side and you give the impression that you don't care very much about the whole interview. Sit ramrod stiff and the interviewer will know just how nervous you are. Try to sit back in the chair but lean just slightly forward. This indicates an interest in what the other person is saying. What about leg and foot placement? If you're female, crossing your feet at your ankles works and if you are a guy, feet planted straight ahead is a good idea. If a woman wears a short skirt to an interview she should cross her legs at the ankles, not at the knees. Crossing her legs at the knees would not be considered to be modest enough. The same goes for a man who sits with his legs in a flagrant vee.
By the way, wiggling your foot, swinging your leg, and tapping your fingers is better left to when you want to do the Hokey Pokey with your nieces and nephews. All of those mannerisms indicate that you are not as confident as you would like your interviewer to believe.
What do your hands say about you? You can either fold them loosely in your lap or if your chair has arm rests, they can rest there. Just watch out for a white-knuckled grip. If you have a tendency to "talk with your hands", you may want to first check out if the interviewer does the same thing. If she doesn't use her hands to make a point, then you may want to curtail your normal flailing. On the other hand, if the interviewer uses her hands quite freely and you never use your hands, you may want to loosen up a little bit. You don't want to mirror what the interviewer is doing but you do want to at least be in the same field of motion.
One more tip that bears repeating: make eye contact with your interviewer or interviewers. These are people you hope to be working with, so it would be a good thing to be able to recognize them the next time you see them.
For more good information about the interview process you may want to listen to a show on the subject, "How to Dress for an Interview," on rel=nofollow [http://twentysomethingyak.com/?p=40]Twenty Something Style. It's a lively interview and I'm sure you'll enjoy it.
Garry Gamber is a public school teacher and entrepreneur. He writes articles about politics, real estate, health and nutrition, and internet dating services. He is the National Director of [http://www.goodpoliticsradio.com]Good Politics Radio and is a charter member of the podcasting network, [http://www.yaktivate.com]Yaktivate.com.
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You may think you are ready for the interview but have you given any thought to what your body language is saying about you even before they scope out your clothes or hear your answer to their first question? There is evidence that suggests that a first impression is made within 3 to 7 seconds. That's not a whole lot of time to make a favorable statement, so what you do needs to really count. And according to Carmine Gallo in a recent Newsweek article, 55% of communication is visual, meaning body language and eye contact.
You want your body language to present the picture of a confident, interested and enthusiastic candidate for the job. So here, then, are some tips on what your body language is saying about you.
Let's start with the handshake. First of all, look at the person. Yes, you may be nervous but you don't need to telegraph that info right off the bat. So make eye contact with the person whose hand you are now shaking. And please, if you need to, shake hands with a friend beforehand and let them give you some constructive criticism. What to watch out for? Avoid the dreaded "dead fish" syndrome. Just as bad is the handshake where it feels like every bone in the hand is crushed beyond the possibility of reconstruction. Wait for the other person to first extend their hand, otherwise you may come across as too aggressive.
OK, now you are seated (and if it is not obvious where you should sit, ask politely). You would think that once you are in a chair that you could relax your vigilance about your body language but that's not how it works. Slouch in the chair or list too far to one side and you give the impression that you don't care very much about the whole interview. Sit ramrod stiff and the interviewer will know just how nervous you are. Try to sit back in the chair but lean just slightly forward. This indicates an interest in what the other person is saying. What about leg and foot placement? If you're female, crossing your feet at your ankles works and if you are a guy, feet planted straight ahead is a good idea. If a woman wears a short skirt to an interview she should cross her legs at the ankles, not at the knees. Crossing her legs at the knees would not be considered to be modest enough. The same goes for a man who sits with his legs in a flagrant vee.
By the way, wiggling your foot, swinging your leg, and tapping your fingers is better left to when you want to do the Hokey Pokey with your nieces and nephews. All of those mannerisms indicate that you are not as confident as you would like your interviewer to believe.
What do your hands say about you? You can either fold them loosely in your lap or if your chair has arm rests, they can rest there. Just watch out for a white-knuckled grip. If you have a tendency to "talk with your hands", you may want to first check out if the interviewer does the same thing. If she doesn't use her hands to make a point, then you may want to curtail your normal flailing. On the other hand, if the interviewer uses her hands quite freely and you never use your hands, you may want to loosen up a little bit. You don't want to mirror what the interviewer is doing but you do want to at least be in the same field of motion.
One more tip that bears repeating: make eye contact with your interviewer or interviewers. These are people you hope to be working with, so it would be a good thing to be able to recognize them the next time you see them.
For more good information about the interview process you may want to listen to a show on the subject, "How to Dress for an Interview," on rel=nofollow [http://twentysomethingyak.com/?p=40]Twenty Something Style. It's a lively interview and I'm sure you'll enjoy it.
Garry Gamber is a public school teacher and entrepreneur. He writes articles about politics, real estate, health and nutrition, and internet dating services. He is the National Director of [http://www.goodpoliticsradio.com]Good Politics Radio and is a charter member of the podcasting network, [http://www.yaktivate.com]Yaktivate.com.
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The Power of Body Language
The subtitle of this book ("How to succeed in every business and social encounter") gives a clue about how much information Tonya Reiman has amassed. She states that as much as 93 percent of our interpersonal communication is nonverbal. The book is about both how to read others' nonverbal messages and how to control your body to achieve your goals.
Her "five immutable truths of body language" explain her passion:
1. Body language is a constant.
2. Body language is always determined by context.
3. Body language can never be judged based on one single signal.
4. Body language reveals the discrepancies between what a person says and what a person truly believes.
5. Body language mastery allows you to tune in to "microexpressions," the brief flashes or gestures that betray inner feelings.
Until reading the book, I had considered myself good at paying attention to body language. For example, the next time you're in a group of people who are talking, look at the direction people's feet are pointing. If a person's feet are pointing away from the group, they are no longer engaged.
She has chapters on the language of: the face (including reading emotion, lip gestures, nose and chin expressions, etc.), the body (hands, torso, arms), of space and touch (the four zones of space and the 14 social touches), and sound (vocal cues). Additionally, she has a wealth of information on secret signals and first impressions. Each chapter also contains what the language means ("What to watch for") and how to use it for your personal benefit ("What you should work on"). As she describes, the information can be used to both build rapport and/or manipulate people.
The book isn't a casual read - it's more like a study course. Read about a gesture or two, go into a social situation, and watch for it (in context). It's another great skill to have in your social toolkit.
Ms. Reiman's website ( rel=nofollow [http://www.bodylanguageuniversity.com/]http://www.bodylanguageuniversity.com) has a number of videos and audios as well.
Jay Hamilton-Roth founded [http://www.ManyGoodIdeas.com/ezine-articles]Many Good Ideas to help small businesses brainstorm, design, and implement effective marketing strategies. He combines creativity with common sense to demystify the process of getting great results. He has used his high-tech background from MIT to help him launch five businesses. He consults with companies in a wide range of industries and publishes a free monthly marketing newsletter (Creative Business Ideas) and a ( [http://www.manygoodideas.com/askmanygoodideas]daily blog). He is available for public speaking.
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Her "five immutable truths of body language" explain her passion:
1. Body language is a constant.
2. Body language is always determined by context.
3. Body language can never be judged based on one single signal.
4. Body language reveals the discrepancies between what a person says and what a person truly believes.
5. Body language mastery allows you to tune in to "microexpressions," the brief flashes or gestures that betray inner feelings.
Until reading the book, I had considered myself good at paying attention to body language. For example, the next time you're in a group of people who are talking, look at the direction people's feet are pointing. If a person's feet are pointing away from the group, they are no longer engaged.
She has chapters on the language of: the face (including reading emotion, lip gestures, nose and chin expressions, etc.), the body (hands, torso, arms), of space and touch (the four zones of space and the 14 social touches), and sound (vocal cues). Additionally, she has a wealth of information on secret signals and first impressions. Each chapter also contains what the language means ("What to watch for") and how to use it for your personal benefit ("What you should work on"). As she describes, the information can be used to both build rapport and/or manipulate people.
The book isn't a casual read - it's more like a study course. Read about a gesture or two, go into a social situation, and watch for it (in context). It's another great skill to have in your social toolkit.
Ms. Reiman's website ( rel=nofollow [http://www.bodylanguageuniversity.com/]http://www.bodylanguageuniversity.com) has a number of videos and audios as well.
Jay Hamilton-Roth founded [http://www.ManyGoodIdeas.com/ezine-articles]Many Good Ideas to help small businesses brainstorm, design, and implement effective marketing strategies. He combines creativity with common sense to demystify the process of getting great results. He has used his high-tech background from MIT to help him launch five businesses. He consults with companies in a wide range of industries and publishes a free monthly marketing newsletter (Creative Business Ideas) and a ( [http://www.manygoodideas.com/askmanygoodideas]daily blog). He is available for public speaking.
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How to Understand Body Language Secret
Do you want to know about the secret of body language? In fact, your body and face delivers messages to other people about situation of your mood and your character. Your body language could be scaring other people away. Learn why, and find out what you can do about it.
Never think that people cannot understand this secret. Even when you do not say a word, other people can still learn a lot about what kind of person you are and what you are thinking and feeling.
The experts of body language state that only about 7% of our communication is delivered through the words we speak and the rest of our communication is delivered through our tone of voice, body language, and facial expressions.
Just remember that when you were baby, people around you could understand what you want by learning your mimic baby face. They are looking at your gestures, and listening to your little cries, trying to interpret what kind of mood you were and you wanted to say.
Have you ever seen someone stands with his arms across his chest? What do you interpret this kind of gesture? This is a signal that he does not want anyone to approach him? People will be afraid to approach this guy if they stand in this kind of position.
If you stand uncomfortably with your chest slumped forward and your shoulders sagging, then you are afraid of seeing other eyes of people. This will make other people think that you are very depressed or completely inferior. They could fear to talk with you because they may think that it would be an uncomfortable experience.
If you stand awkwardly, people will think that you are not confident. It seems that you are trying to disappear among people. Have you ever seen someone is holding his breath or breathing in a shallow? This gesture is a sign of anxiety. There is some body language secret that you can learn. Just for example giving too much smile does not mean that someone is happy but this could mean that he is nervous and forced.
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Never think that people cannot understand this secret. Even when you do not say a word, other people can still learn a lot about what kind of person you are and what you are thinking and feeling.
The experts of body language state that only about 7% of our communication is delivered through the words we speak and the rest of our communication is delivered through our tone of voice, body language, and facial expressions.
Just remember that when you were baby, people around you could understand what you want by learning your mimic baby face. They are looking at your gestures, and listening to your little cries, trying to interpret what kind of mood you were and you wanted to say.
Have you ever seen someone stands with his arms across his chest? What do you interpret this kind of gesture? This is a signal that he does not want anyone to approach him? People will be afraid to approach this guy if they stand in this kind of position.
If you stand uncomfortably with your chest slumped forward and your shoulders sagging, then you are afraid of seeing other eyes of people. This will make other people think that you are very depressed or completely inferior. They could fear to talk with you because they may think that it would be an uncomfortable experience.
If you stand awkwardly, people will think that you are not confident. It seems that you are trying to disappear among people. Have you ever seen someone is holding his breath or breathing in a shallow? This gesture is a sign of anxiety. There is some body language secret that you can learn. Just for example giving too much smile does not mean that someone is happy but this could mean that he is nervous and forced.
Neil Q Tran has been writing articles not only about Body Language Secret but also Comb Binding Machines for nearly 2 years. Come and visit his latest website over on [http://combbindingmachines.org/]comb binding machines which helps people find the best [http://combbindingmachines.org/gbc-binding-machines.html]gbc binding machines and information they are looking for.
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Job Interview - How Your Body Language Can Affect Your Interview
After re-structuring your resume, spending hours on employment search engines, sending out dozens of applications and speaking to several potential employers in a telephone interview - you have finally scored the ultimate - a job interview! All you have to do is to walk in there and wow them with your impressive list of skills and achievements. Right? Not so fast. Did you know that your body can betray you? Body language, all those jitters and gestures, can convey an impression that you may not want to convey. Here are some things you may want to watch for:
• A firm handshake will give a good impression to a potential employer at a job interview - but not too firm which can appear aggressive and arrogant. Shake hands firmly but not too powerfully and look straight at the other person. If you are being introduced to more than one person, it is better to go around the table and shake hands rather than leaning over the table. Look at each person and say your name - don't assume that they will know it.
• During your job interview try to adopt a posture that shows interest but still comes across as being relaxed. You can do this by sitting up straight in your chair at the beginning of the job interview, with your back against the back of the chair. Leaning forward shows that you are interested in what is being said and that the person conducting the interview has captured your attention. However, sitting on the edge of the chair comes across as being tense and may be interpreted as your feeling uncomfortable.
• What to do with your hands during a job interview? In a difficult situation we are often inclined to fold our arms across our body. It is better not to do this as arms crossed comes across as defensive. It is better to let your hands lie easily in your lap or on the armrests. Hand movements can help to liven up the interview. The fact that you dare to make movements with your hands during a job interview might indicate that you feel at ease quickly.
• Head tilted to the side shows interest as does nodding the head. Head straight up signals a neutral attitude to what is being said while the head down reads as negative and judgmental and whether that is what you are trying to convey or not, it is not how you want to be interpreted.
• Bringing a hand to the back of the neck shows that you are trying to pull out of the conversation as if the questions being asked are not ones that you are willing to pursue. It makes you seem as if you have something to hide.
• Legs crossed can make you look lopsided and therefore lacking in confidence or defensive. Sit straight at a job interview, facing the potential employer directly.
• Picking imaginary fluff from clothing signals that you don't agree with what is being said and the person conducting the job interview can take huge umbrage at being more or less 'dismissed'.
• Pay attention to inadvertent movements that you may make sometimes during a job interview due to nervousness. For example, shuffling with your feet or kicking against the leg of a table can be very irritating for other people. Drumming with your fingers or clicking with a pen also won't be a great contribution to the interview. So pay attention!
Body language works both ways and it is important to be aware of how the person conducting the job interview is relating to you. For instance, if he/she shakes their head, sighs or fold their arms you can interpret this as a subconscious sign of displeasure. Take note of what you are saying that might cause them to be annoyed and take immediate steps to turn the job interview around before they even realize that they are irritated. Realise that the job interview is more than just a means for the employer to determine which of the candidates is most suitable for the job. The job interview especially is a moment of mutual acquaintance. It's a first meeting with people that you might soon work together with. Therefore the boss should actually be just as nervous as you!
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• A firm handshake will give a good impression to a potential employer at a job interview - but not too firm which can appear aggressive and arrogant. Shake hands firmly but not too powerfully and look straight at the other person. If you are being introduced to more than one person, it is better to go around the table and shake hands rather than leaning over the table. Look at each person and say your name - don't assume that they will know it.
• During your job interview try to adopt a posture that shows interest but still comes across as being relaxed. You can do this by sitting up straight in your chair at the beginning of the job interview, with your back against the back of the chair. Leaning forward shows that you are interested in what is being said and that the person conducting the interview has captured your attention. However, sitting on the edge of the chair comes across as being tense and may be interpreted as your feeling uncomfortable.
• What to do with your hands during a job interview? In a difficult situation we are often inclined to fold our arms across our body. It is better not to do this as arms crossed comes across as defensive. It is better to let your hands lie easily in your lap or on the armrests. Hand movements can help to liven up the interview. The fact that you dare to make movements with your hands during a job interview might indicate that you feel at ease quickly.
• Head tilted to the side shows interest as does nodding the head. Head straight up signals a neutral attitude to what is being said while the head down reads as negative and judgmental and whether that is what you are trying to convey or not, it is not how you want to be interpreted.
• Bringing a hand to the back of the neck shows that you are trying to pull out of the conversation as if the questions being asked are not ones that you are willing to pursue. It makes you seem as if you have something to hide.
• Legs crossed can make you look lopsided and therefore lacking in confidence or defensive. Sit straight at a job interview, facing the potential employer directly.
• Picking imaginary fluff from clothing signals that you don't agree with what is being said and the person conducting the job interview can take huge umbrage at being more or less 'dismissed'.
• Pay attention to inadvertent movements that you may make sometimes during a job interview due to nervousness. For example, shuffling with your feet or kicking against the leg of a table can be very irritating for other people. Drumming with your fingers or clicking with a pen also won't be a great contribution to the interview. So pay attention!
Body language works both ways and it is important to be aware of how the person conducting the job interview is relating to you. For instance, if he/she shakes their head, sighs or fold their arms you can interpret this as a subconscious sign of displeasure. Take note of what you are saying that might cause them to be annoyed and take immediate steps to turn the job interview around before they even realize that they are irritated. Realise that the job interview is more than just a means for the employer to determine which of the candidates is most suitable for the job. The job interview especially is a moment of mutual acquaintance. It's a first meeting with people that you might soon work together with. Therefore the boss should actually be just as nervous as you!
The Career Council is the #1 person-to-person answer for Job Interview Expertise. We offer the solutions to your issues, the secrets of successful interviewing and the skills training needed to transform you into a Key Candidate. Check out how we can help you! [http://www.careercouncil.ca/]job interview
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Examples On Body Language And Their Meanings
Body language is a vital part of the whole communication process. It can determine either a positive or negative reaction from the one you are talking to.
Examples on body language may come from any part of the body: eyes and eyebrows, lips, arms, and any other part that the receiver of the message sees.
It is important to be aware of the different body actions that you do while conversing (or even when not speaking) to avoid unnecessary and even unpleasant reactions. Here are some examples on body language and the ways your body parts can manifest themselves.
Eyes And Eyebrows
The eyes are said to be the windows to our soul. Though it may sound too cryptic and deep, it holds a bit of truth that the person you are talking to may see some of the thoughts that you are holding back, or perhaps even misinterpret your eye's actions from what you would like him or her to understand.
Even the position and movement of your eyebrows are some of the most noticed elements when you communicate with a person face-to-face.
A classic example on body language that conveys an apprehensive or burdened mood is when you have your eyebrows converging in the middle, as with frowning. Even if you talk softly and slowly, the person whom you are interacting with may think that you are almost at your temper's threshold.
Lips
Another body part that is usually interpreted for the probable mood of a person is the mouth.
Though we have different shapes and positions for our lips, particularly as to how they form, there are some universal notions regarding how we would most probably feel while in a conversation.
Here are some examples on body language of the lips.
A retracted lower lip that is almost bit by the upper teeth is usually a sign that the person is holding back and waiting for affirmation or action from the other person.
On the other hand, a retracted upper lip that's bit by the lower teeth usually signifies a person who's holding back and keeping mixed reactions, as with a reaction to the message being conveyed by the other.
Such small movements of the lips have significant implications to the person seeing them and may serve as a basis to either continue or halt the communication process.
Extremities
The arms and legs are considered responsible for a larger concept of body language, as these are more profound and have a heavier impact.
Crossing the arms over the chest usually signifies doubt, mistrust, impatience, or closed-mindedness. Coupled with the body resting on one leg and having the other stepped away and angled, the whole idea of this unwelcoming look is heightened.
Examples on body language may be corrected with appropriate gestures by practicing and internalizing how you would probably feel if you were the one seeing those actions you are doing. Actions often speak louder than words, so it's best to always be conscious of your gestures and movements.
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Examples on body language may come from any part of the body: eyes and eyebrows, lips, arms, and any other part that the receiver of the message sees.
It is important to be aware of the different body actions that you do while conversing (or even when not speaking) to avoid unnecessary and even unpleasant reactions. Here are some examples on body language and the ways your body parts can manifest themselves.
Eyes And Eyebrows
The eyes are said to be the windows to our soul. Though it may sound too cryptic and deep, it holds a bit of truth that the person you are talking to may see some of the thoughts that you are holding back, or perhaps even misinterpret your eye's actions from what you would like him or her to understand.
Even the position and movement of your eyebrows are some of the most noticed elements when you communicate with a person face-to-face.
A classic example on body language that conveys an apprehensive or burdened mood is when you have your eyebrows converging in the middle, as with frowning. Even if you talk softly and slowly, the person whom you are interacting with may think that you are almost at your temper's threshold.
Lips
Another body part that is usually interpreted for the probable mood of a person is the mouth.
Though we have different shapes and positions for our lips, particularly as to how they form, there are some universal notions regarding how we would most probably feel while in a conversation.
Here are some examples on body language of the lips.
A retracted lower lip that is almost bit by the upper teeth is usually a sign that the person is holding back and waiting for affirmation or action from the other person.
On the other hand, a retracted upper lip that's bit by the lower teeth usually signifies a person who's holding back and keeping mixed reactions, as with a reaction to the message being conveyed by the other.
Such small movements of the lips have significant implications to the person seeing them and may serve as a basis to either continue or halt the communication process.
Extremities
The arms and legs are considered responsible for a larger concept of body language, as these are more profound and have a heavier impact.
Crossing the arms over the chest usually signifies doubt, mistrust, impatience, or closed-mindedness. Coupled with the body resting on one leg and having the other stepped away and angled, the whole idea of this unwelcoming look is heightened.
Examples on body language may be corrected with appropriate gestures by practicing and internalizing how you would probably feel if you were the one seeing those actions you are doing. Actions often speak louder than words, so it's best to always be conscious of your gestures and movements.
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Body Language - When Actions Speak Louder Than Words
Our body language often reveals information about us to others before we ever open our mouths. Through a series of non-verbal cues, some conscious, most not, we communicate our thoughts, feelings and emotions to the outside world. The Merriam-Webster Eleventh Edition Collegiate Dictionary defines body language as "the gestures, movements and mannerisms by which a person or animal communicates with others."
In the animal kingdom, the male of the species often assumes a threatening posture to warn other approaching males to steer clear of his mate. Many times your pet dog will express his desires in the form of body signals: rolling on his back in submission, baring his teeth to show aggression or wagging his tail to show his love and admiration of his owner.
In humans it is a little more complicated. Because humans understand the meaning behind various postures and expressions, body language is often more deliberate and premeditated. In many cases, much more meaning can be read into a person's bodily signals than into the words they speak to convey their messages.
OPEN BODY LANGUAGE
The meaning behind open forms of body language is one of friendship and a willingness to reach out to another person. People tend to respond positively to open body postures. Making eye contact, standing or sitting with arms unfolded and legs uncrossed, and keeping hands unfolded instead of clenched into fists are all inviting signs of a willingness to interact.
CLOSED BODY LANGUAGE
On the other hand, closed body language gives the instant impression that the other person wishes to remain aloof. Lack of eye contact, maintaining an unusually large distance away from people and crossing arms or legs are all signs of unwillingness to get any closer.
It's interesting that body language is actually a skill that can be taught. While all of us start out in life with a certain sense of self and display that early on through our mannerisms and postures, we can make a conscious effort to alter the impressions we give off through body signals, at least to a certain degree.
Role playing and activities designed to foster open motions can be taught in classrooms (often psychology classes or other forms of self-help groups). Knowing what to look for in others can go a long way in learning how to change the impression you give off with your own body.
Every body part plays a role in body language expressions. It has been determined that facial expressions can display one of six emotions: surprise, fear, happiness, disgust, sadness and anger. Most of us can recognize these emotions in others before a single word has been spoken. The hands are very expressive as well. A wide range of meaning can be found in something as simple as a handshake.
Knowing how to interpret the body language of others and how to control our own non-verbal expressions can prove essential in many forms of inter-personal relationships.
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In the animal kingdom, the male of the species often assumes a threatening posture to warn other approaching males to steer clear of his mate. Many times your pet dog will express his desires in the form of body signals: rolling on his back in submission, baring his teeth to show aggression or wagging his tail to show his love and admiration of his owner.
In humans it is a little more complicated. Because humans understand the meaning behind various postures and expressions, body language is often more deliberate and premeditated. In many cases, much more meaning can be read into a person's bodily signals than into the words they speak to convey their messages.
OPEN BODY LANGUAGE
The meaning behind open forms of body language is one of friendship and a willingness to reach out to another person. People tend to respond positively to open body postures. Making eye contact, standing or sitting with arms unfolded and legs uncrossed, and keeping hands unfolded instead of clenched into fists are all inviting signs of a willingness to interact.
CLOSED BODY LANGUAGE
On the other hand, closed body language gives the instant impression that the other person wishes to remain aloof. Lack of eye contact, maintaining an unusually large distance away from people and crossing arms or legs are all signs of unwillingness to get any closer.
It's interesting that body language is actually a skill that can be taught. While all of us start out in life with a certain sense of self and display that early on through our mannerisms and postures, we can make a conscious effort to alter the impressions we give off through body signals, at least to a certain degree.
Role playing and activities designed to foster open motions can be taught in classrooms (often psychology classes or other forms of self-help groups). Knowing what to look for in others can go a long way in learning how to change the impression you give off with your own body.
Every body part plays a role in body language expressions. It has been determined that facial expressions can display one of six emotions: surprise, fear, happiness, disgust, sadness and anger. Most of us can recognize these emotions in others before a single word has been spoken. The hands are very expressive as well. A wide range of meaning can be found in something as simple as a handshake.
Knowing how to interpret the body language of others and how to control our own non-verbal expressions can prove essential in many forms of inter-personal relationships.
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How To Read Body Language - Be An Absolute Stunner
What if you could read what's on a persons mind before even talking to him or her by their body language? Wouldn’t it be absolutely awesome if you already know what the person standing in front of you is thinking about? Wouldn’t it be awesome that you can go up to almost anyone and start a conversation or even get a potential date just by reading their body language? Read on to find out some of the best ways to read a persons body language.
Facial expressions- Facial expressions are one of the best ways to read someone’s body language. You can tell a lot about the person just based on his or her facial expressions. The best way to find out whether someone is interested in you or not is by the way they look at you. If a person stares at you constantly with a strong eye contact than this is a very strong sign of interest.
Walk- You can also tell a lot about a person’s body language by the way he or she walks. If a person walks with dropped shoulders looking down than this is a very strong sign of lack of confidence and such people are generally low on self esteem. Whereas people who walk with high shoulders with chest out are suppose to be the one's with a very high self confidence.
Arms- Another way to read persons body language is by the way they keep their hands. This is the best way to pick out introverted personalities. If a person has crossed arms most of the time than they are mostly in the defensive position and would not be open to conversations from strangers easily. Whereas when people talk with their arms spread wide than they are mostly open to different people and are quick to mix up.
Hand shake- This is one of the best determinant of a person’s body language and his or her overall personality. If a person has a firm hand shake and does it with confidence than that person is trustworthy and is confident about him or herself. Whereas a loose and quick handshake is a strong indicator of lack of confidence and might not be trustworthy.
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Facial expressions- Facial expressions are one of the best ways to read someone’s body language. You can tell a lot about the person just based on his or her facial expressions. The best way to find out whether someone is interested in you or not is by the way they look at you. If a person stares at you constantly with a strong eye contact than this is a very strong sign of interest.
Walk- You can also tell a lot about a person’s body language by the way he or she walks. If a person walks with dropped shoulders looking down than this is a very strong sign of lack of confidence and such people are generally low on self esteem. Whereas people who walk with high shoulders with chest out are suppose to be the one's with a very high self confidence.
Arms- Another way to read persons body language is by the way they keep their hands. This is the best way to pick out introverted personalities. If a person has crossed arms most of the time than they are mostly in the defensive position and would not be open to conversations from strangers easily. Whereas when people talk with their arms spread wide than they are mostly open to different people and are quick to mix up.
Hand shake- This is one of the best determinant of a person’s body language and his or her overall personality. If a person has a firm hand shake and does it with confidence than that person is trustworthy and is confident about him or herself. Whereas a loose and quick handshake is a strong indicator of lack of confidence and might not be trustworthy.
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Body Language Signs That Show Attraction
How should someone display their attraction for some other person without telling them, and how could one know that he or she is indeed attracted? The solution is 'Body language' because it is an obvious method of showing an individual how they feel and what they wish to say. Your eyes, facial expressions, and the movements of your body will truly express that you want to engage in a romantic or an intimate relationship with another.
What The Eyes Might Show - A person's eyes are powerful indicators of romance or even physical attraction because they are able to make expressions, flirt, and even seduce much more better than spoken words. Eye to eye contact may not mean anything if it just occurs briefly, but when it lasts longer and with a consuming look, then they are probably into you, though winking may additionally work, but it calls for proper timing. An additional strong evidence of attraction is when an individual catches your eye, looks away, then looks at you once again, although, if they glance away and never looks back again, it is a clear signal that they're uninterested.
Smile And Facial Expressions - The smile is one of the greatest indications that an individual is attracted to you, though ensure that you know how to discern a fake smile from a earnest one. Elevating the eyebrows, though usually unconsciously, has also been observed to be performed by people that are flirting with one another.
The Magic Of Contact - Sometimes, leaning towards another is just not adequate though getting closer is a lot better being a soft tap or stroking of the arm can transmit electric signs to the other individual. Many individuals will pretend that there is something on their face or something foreign on the clothes to get an excuse to touch.
Variations between Both Sexes - Compared to men, women can send signals of attraction five times stronger since they've many more flirtation tendencies than men do and most of them are done intentionally. They love to preen, play with their hair, tossing their hair across the shoulder, and mess with things within their hands like a glass. Many females are additionally very good with seduction men, especially when they involve their lips. Biting and licking their lips, putting on lipstick, eating or drinking slowly are the usual moves of an interested woman.
Meanwhile, men usually try to appear masculine to show their adeptness to the women that they like by attempting to stand straight, making their shoulders square, and occasionally placing their thumbs within their belt to create a macho sense. They will also unknowingly make contact with their tie or their shirt collar, and that indicates that they think the woman is appealing.
Signals of an Invitation - You will also determine if a person likes you if he or she would give the following signs: prolonged eye to eye contact, raising of eyebrows, returning a smile, laughing along with you, leaning in, bridging the game, imitating movements of the partner, making contact, making themselves look attractive, and things like that. If you received these signs, it means there's a huge chance that you may move your relationship to a higher level.
Signs That indicate "No!" - An individual is more than likely uninterested when he or she never glances back in your direction. One may additionally ascertain that person is starting to become weary or even uninterested in you when their eyes start to wander, sigh, yawn, have a passive or a neutral expression, and the like.
The signals of body language in terms of romanticism and even attraction are simple to see if you understand the way to interpret a person's acts. Understanding gestures as well as motions of another individual can truly aid you to know in advance if you can be familiar together or be rejected.
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What The Eyes Might Show - A person's eyes are powerful indicators of romance or even physical attraction because they are able to make expressions, flirt, and even seduce much more better than spoken words. Eye to eye contact may not mean anything if it just occurs briefly, but when it lasts longer and with a consuming look, then they are probably into you, though winking may additionally work, but it calls for proper timing. An additional strong evidence of attraction is when an individual catches your eye, looks away, then looks at you once again, although, if they glance away and never looks back again, it is a clear signal that they're uninterested.
Smile And Facial Expressions - The smile is one of the greatest indications that an individual is attracted to you, though ensure that you know how to discern a fake smile from a earnest one. Elevating the eyebrows, though usually unconsciously, has also been observed to be performed by people that are flirting with one another.
The Magic Of Contact - Sometimes, leaning towards another is just not adequate though getting closer is a lot better being a soft tap or stroking of the arm can transmit electric signs to the other individual. Many individuals will pretend that there is something on their face or something foreign on the clothes to get an excuse to touch.
Variations between Both Sexes - Compared to men, women can send signals of attraction five times stronger since they've many more flirtation tendencies than men do and most of them are done intentionally. They love to preen, play with their hair, tossing their hair across the shoulder, and mess with things within their hands like a glass. Many females are additionally very good with seduction men, especially when they involve their lips. Biting and licking their lips, putting on lipstick, eating or drinking slowly are the usual moves of an interested woman.
Meanwhile, men usually try to appear masculine to show their adeptness to the women that they like by attempting to stand straight, making their shoulders square, and occasionally placing their thumbs within their belt to create a macho sense. They will also unknowingly make contact with their tie or their shirt collar, and that indicates that they think the woman is appealing.
Signals of an Invitation - You will also determine if a person likes you if he or she would give the following signs: prolonged eye to eye contact, raising of eyebrows, returning a smile, laughing along with you, leaning in, bridging the game, imitating movements of the partner, making contact, making themselves look attractive, and things like that. If you received these signs, it means there's a huge chance that you may move your relationship to a higher level.
Signs That indicate "No!" - An individual is more than likely uninterested when he or she never glances back in your direction. One may additionally ascertain that person is starting to become weary or even uninterested in you when their eyes start to wander, sigh, yawn, have a passive or a neutral expression, and the like.
The signals of body language in terms of romanticism and even attraction are simple to see if you understand the way to interpret a person's acts. Understanding gestures as well as motions of another individual can truly aid you to know in advance if you can be familiar together or be rejected.
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Body Language Flirting Tips & Tricks
Forget all about pick-up lines. There out. Dead. Instead, you need to focus on mastering the art of body language flirting. When used properly, it is more powerful than anything you might say to a woman. This is an incredibly powerful tool for seduction. Here's why.
First, you can communicate with a woman even if she is on the other side of the room. Second, a woman will feel more at ease if she is getting signals from you that you're interested. Women hate rejection just as much, if not more, than we do.
The following are three examples of body language flirting that you can use:
Body Language Tip #1 - Smile and Be "Open"
Avoid being the guy sitting by himself, looking mean at the bar. The room could be full of single women looking for a man to talk to, but if you're not presenting yourself as being approachable you'll never get a shot.
Make a point of making eye contact with women. Always smile and greet them as they walk by, even if you aren't necessarily interested. This will let those who may be watching you know that you are friendly and willing to talk. Keep from crossing your arms or putting your hands in your pockets. Relaxed body language will make those around you feel more relaxed as well. Working to keep your body language open and friendly will greatly increase your chances of meeting a woman.
Body Language Tip #2 - Use the Wink... But Sparingly
There's a right way and a wrong way to wink. Doing it the right way will quickly spark a woman's interest. Doing it the wrong way can be more than a little creepy for her. The technique is simple - make sure to smile first.
Using a wink works well when you aren't necessarily able to approach her. Using the smile and wink will effectively let her know that you are interested in finding out more about her. Don't be surprised if you find a woman who is bold enough to approach you after using this tip!
Just remember that once is enough. More than that and you'll start moving into the creepy zone.
Body Language Tip #3 - The Head Tilt
With this tip, you'll tilt your head toward her when she says something interesting. This is just a slight tilt and not a bow. Subtlety is key. This tip is good for letting a woman know that you find her interesting without using a lot of facial expression.
When used properly, these tips will help you meet and build a rapport with more women.
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First, you can communicate with a woman even if she is on the other side of the room. Second, a woman will feel more at ease if she is getting signals from you that you're interested. Women hate rejection just as much, if not more, than we do.
The following are three examples of body language flirting that you can use:
Body Language Tip #1 - Smile and Be "Open"
Avoid being the guy sitting by himself, looking mean at the bar. The room could be full of single women looking for a man to talk to, but if you're not presenting yourself as being approachable you'll never get a shot.
Make a point of making eye contact with women. Always smile and greet them as they walk by, even if you aren't necessarily interested. This will let those who may be watching you know that you are friendly and willing to talk. Keep from crossing your arms or putting your hands in your pockets. Relaxed body language will make those around you feel more relaxed as well. Working to keep your body language open and friendly will greatly increase your chances of meeting a woman.
Body Language Tip #2 - Use the Wink... But Sparingly
There's a right way and a wrong way to wink. Doing it the right way will quickly spark a woman's interest. Doing it the wrong way can be more than a little creepy for her. The technique is simple - make sure to smile first.
Using a wink works well when you aren't necessarily able to approach her. Using the smile and wink will effectively let her know that you are interested in finding out more about her. Don't be surprised if you find a woman who is bold enough to approach you after using this tip!
Just remember that once is enough. More than that and you'll start moving into the creepy zone.
Body Language Tip #3 - The Head Tilt
With this tip, you'll tilt your head toward her when she says something interesting. This is just a slight tilt and not a bow. Subtlety is key. This tip is good for letting a woman know that you find her interesting without using a lot of facial expression.
When used properly, these tips will help you meet and build a rapport with more women.
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How to Read Body Language - Top 10 Tips
Interested in learning how to read body language? Would you like to be able to tell when people are lying and understand people's intentions? This article will provide you with the top 10 tips for reading body language.
I feel Body Language is the most important language you can learn. It bypasses the verbal communication barriers and gives you an insight into what others might be thinking, or what actions they are likely to take.
Remember that the art of being able to read body language is to be able to look at some one, pick up the signals, and at the same time not let on to that person you are doing this. If you do the person will become uncomfortable.
Tip 1. - Eyes
Dilated pupils - the person is interested in the topic.
People say that the eyes are the windows to the soul. They can tell so much information about the person if you know what you are looking for. As in most situations, the same signal can be interpreted in a different way. It depends entirely on the circumstances at hand. The example above could also mean that the person is on drugs, or it could mean that they are focused.
Tip 2. - Hands
Open palm.- the person is relaxed and comfortable.
The hands have many expressions and are a good place to start when learning how to read body language. Generally when some ones hands are open it means that their defenses are relaxed.
Tip 3 - Mimicking
When you are talking to someone, if they are mimicking your body position and action it means that they are comfortable in the situation and most likely interested by you and what you are saying.
Tip 4 - Eyes
If someone's eyes are gazing to the side it is a trait that they are feeling guilty. Likewise if they are gazing down this express's shame. Remember the eyes have so many meanings and it's easy to make the wrong evaluation. Practice makes perfect.
Tip 5 - Arms
The main two expressions with arms is that they are either closed (folded) or open. When folded the person is possibly angry or disapproving. When their arms are open the person is in an honest position and is accepting of the situation.
Tip 6 - Rubbing of the Chin
If someone is rubbing their chin it generally means that they are thinking.
Tip 7 - Feet
When you are in conversation with someone you can tell if they are comfortable and interested by what you are saying by their feet position. When standing opposite one another the other persons feet are facing in your direction. This means that they are comfortable and their head and eyes will also be focused on you.
When standing opposite someone their feet are pointing away and their head and eyes are not focused on you. They will most likely be nodding and agreeing with a fake smile. This means that the person n question is not interested and might even feel uncomfortable in the situation.
Tip 8 - Legs
When stood up Legs are a good indicator of how confident someone is. If someone is standing with their legs shoulder width apart they are relaxed. If they are standing with a stance wider than that they are a confident and are in a grounded position to show they are in control.
When stood up with legs crossed the person is probably shy.
When sitting down if the legs are crossed it shows the person is in protective mode. This is very much used alongside crossed arm action.
If the legs are open when the person is seated then they are in a relaxed position. The same as when standing.
Tip 9 - Fingers
Fingers can create many gestures and are great for reading body language. A pointing finger can either be someone pointing to a item or place, it can also indicate anger. If someone is curling their fingers tightly they are usually pleading for some thing.
Drumming or tapping with the fingers indicates frustration. The faster the beating, the greater the frustration and tension inside the person.
Tip 10 - Eyebrows
The eyebrows have many uses. Listed below are some examples. When the eye brows are raised, normally the person is shocked or surprised. The greater the surprise the more raised they will be. When someone flicks their eye brow up and down quickly they are greeting someone else or are showing they have acknowledged them.
I hope you have enjoyed learning how to read body language tips. Remember reading body language is not a skill that can be learned over night. The more you practice the easier it will become and the more subtle you will be able to do it.
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I feel Body Language is the most important language you can learn. It bypasses the verbal communication barriers and gives you an insight into what others might be thinking, or what actions they are likely to take.
Remember that the art of being able to read body language is to be able to look at some one, pick up the signals, and at the same time not let on to that person you are doing this. If you do the person will become uncomfortable.
Tip 1. - Eyes
Dilated pupils - the person is interested in the topic.
People say that the eyes are the windows to the soul. They can tell so much information about the person if you know what you are looking for. As in most situations, the same signal can be interpreted in a different way. It depends entirely on the circumstances at hand. The example above could also mean that the person is on drugs, or it could mean that they are focused.
Tip 2. - Hands
Open palm.- the person is relaxed and comfortable.
The hands have many expressions and are a good place to start when learning how to read body language. Generally when some ones hands are open it means that their defenses are relaxed.
Tip 3 - Mimicking
When you are talking to someone, if they are mimicking your body position and action it means that they are comfortable in the situation and most likely interested by you and what you are saying.
Tip 4 - Eyes
If someone's eyes are gazing to the side it is a trait that they are feeling guilty. Likewise if they are gazing down this express's shame. Remember the eyes have so many meanings and it's easy to make the wrong evaluation. Practice makes perfect.
Tip 5 - Arms
The main two expressions with arms is that they are either closed (folded) or open. When folded the person is possibly angry or disapproving. When their arms are open the person is in an honest position and is accepting of the situation.
Tip 6 - Rubbing of the Chin
If someone is rubbing their chin it generally means that they are thinking.
Tip 7 - Feet
When you are in conversation with someone you can tell if they are comfortable and interested by what you are saying by their feet position. When standing opposite one another the other persons feet are facing in your direction. This means that they are comfortable and their head and eyes will also be focused on you.
When standing opposite someone their feet are pointing away and their head and eyes are not focused on you. They will most likely be nodding and agreeing with a fake smile. This means that the person n question is not interested and might even feel uncomfortable in the situation.
Tip 8 - Legs
When stood up Legs are a good indicator of how confident someone is. If someone is standing with their legs shoulder width apart they are relaxed. If they are standing with a stance wider than that they are a confident and are in a grounded position to show they are in control.
When stood up with legs crossed the person is probably shy.
When sitting down if the legs are crossed it shows the person is in protective mode. This is very much used alongside crossed arm action.
If the legs are open when the person is seated then they are in a relaxed position. The same as when standing.
Tip 9 - Fingers
Fingers can create many gestures and are great for reading body language. A pointing finger can either be someone pointing to a item or place, it can also indicate anger. If someone is curling their fingers tightly they are usually pleading for some thing.
Drumming or tapping with the fingers indicates frustration. The faster the beating, the greater the frustration and tension inside the person.
Tip 10 - Eyebrows
The eyebrows have many uses. Listed below are some examples. When the eye brows are raised, normally the person is shocked or surprised. The greater the surprise the more raised they will be. When someone flicks their eye brow up and down quickly they are greeting someone else or are showing they have acknowledged them.
I hope you have enjoyed learning how to read body language tips. Remember reading body language is not a skill that can be learned over night. The more you practice the easier it will become and the more subtle you will be able to do it.
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Signs of Attraction - Body Language - Signs of Love and Attraction
As I was searching for love, I had great fun learning some basics of body language in relation to physical attraction. It was fun to be near someone I found attractive and see if he reciprocated what I felt. It was a helpful tool during the very first meetings and during the initial dates!
Attraction signs of the body:
- Especially if sitting, his/her foot is likely to be pointing towards you
- Or their legs will be crossed TOWARDS you
- They will turn towards you or at least have the trunk of their body face towards you (so they may turn towards you in a way that their trunk is at least facing you)
- They will come very close to you if they can (this will of course also depend on their culture, the circumstance etc)
- If you two are on 'speaking terms', during your exchanges he/she will touch you, even if in a seemingly casual way (but of course there are people who touch you no matter what, so you need to verify by checking other attractions signs)
- His/her head may be tilted
- They will touch their face during conversation
- Their lips may be slightly parted
- They will exhibit grooming behaviours such as adjusting their clothes, checking their face (or parts of), adjust their hair, etc)
- They may touch their face, often near the eyes whilst talking to you or looking at you.
Moreover: a man will sit in front of you and acquire a straighter, more 'squared' posture in order to 'show off' his shoulders and chest as well as displaying (subconsciously) his sexual areas; he may also sit or stand with his legs apart and his head held high and, at times, roll up their sleeves (all subconscious showing-off gestures)
a woman will stroke her hair or/and touch/stroke her neck in your presence, or whilst looking at your or whilst you two are talking; she may also thrust our her breasts in your presence.
Attraction signs of the eyes:
- They will look at your eyes, then will look at another part of your face, sometimes from eye to eye to mouth, other times along your hair; it's a form of 'caressing your face' with their eyes
- They may look at you and then look away, often looking back at your raising their eyes/eyebrows
- They may just raise their eyebrows
- Their pupils will be more dilated than they would normally in that particular environment/light, so if you can check others' pupils in the same room/area for comparison.
- Their eyes may be watery
Mirroring your movements or gestures is also a sign of attraction. Similarly, if you wish to make someone feel at ease, you could mirror his/her movements. In order to determine physical attractions, you don't have to notice all of the above signs, because it obviously also depends on the circumstances (where you are at that time, for example). But if you notice many of the above signs, he/she is attracted to you! Congratulations!
However, remember that some 'players' may be using the body language to manipulate you. This is why, if you are searching for love and nothing less, you must learn to determine, as you two date, if he/she genuinely cares for you and your well being. Love and physical attractions are not the same thing! It may be helpful to read the rel=nofollow [http://mysearchingforlove.com]n.1 rule to love (go to the left side menu and click on the title 'N.1 Love Search Rule') in order to 'diagnose' the situation between you and him/her, as you are dating or having a relationship.
Even after you have become body language experts in the area of physical attraction, you may wish to remember that if you are seriously searching for lasting, fulfilling love you will not rely solely on physical attraction nor mere compatibilities. Learning what type of relationship is likely to be most fulfilling will be of great help in determining if he or she is a good 'match' and if you are wising up in your love search.
Jules Monty from http://www.mysearchingforlove.com
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Attraction signs of the body:
- Especially if sitting, his/her foot is likely to be pointing towards you
- Or their legs will be crossed TOWARDS you
- They will turn towards you or at least have the trunk of their body face towards you (so they may turn towards you in a way that their trunk is at least facing you)
- They will come very close to you if they can (this will of course also depend on their culture, the circumstance etc)
- If you two are on 'speaking terms', during your exchanges he/she will touch you, even if in a seemingly casual way (but of course there are people who touch you no matter what, so you need to verify by checking other attractions signs)
- His/her head may be tilted
- They will touch their face during conversation
- Their lips may be slightly parted
- They will exhibit grooming behaviours such as adjusting their clothes, checking their face (or parts of), adjust their hair, etc)
- They may touch their face, often near the eyes whilst talking to you or looking at you.
Moreover: a man will sit in front of you and acquire a straighter, more 'squared' posture in order to 'show off' his shoulders and chest as well as displaying (subconsciously) his sexual areas; he may also sit or stand with his legs apart and his head held high and, at times, roll up their sleeves (all subconscious showing-off gestures)
a woman will stroke her hair or/and touch/stroke her neck in your presence, or whilst looking at your or whilst you two are talking; she may also thrust our her breasts in your presence.
Attraction signs of the eyes:
- They will look at your eyes, then will look at another part of your face, sometimes from eye to eye to mouth, other times along your hair; it's a form of 'caressing your face' with their eyes
- They may look at you and then look away, often looking back at your raising their eyes/eyebrows
- They may just raise their eyebrows
- Their pupils will be more dilated than they would normally in that particular environment/light, so if you can check others' pupils in the same room/area for comparison.
- Their eyes may be watery
Mirroring your movements or gestures is also a sign of attraction. Similarly, if you wish to make someone feel at ease, you could mirror his/her movements. In order to determine physical attractions, you don't have to notice all of the above signs, because it obviously also depends on the circumstances (where you are at that time, for example). But if you notice many of the above signs, he/she is attracted to you! Congratulations!
However, remember that some 'players' may be using the body language to manipulate you. This is why, if you are searching for love and nothing less, you must learn to determine, as you two date, if he/she genuinely cares for you and your well being. Love and physical attractions are not the same thing! It may be helpful to read the rel=nofollow [http://mysearchingforlove.com]n.1 rule to love (go to the left side menu and click on the title 'N.1 Love Search Rule') in order to 'diagnose' the situation between you and him/her, as you are dating or having a relationship.
Even after you have become body language experts in the area of physical attraction, you may wish to remember that if you are seriously searching for lasting, fulfilling love you will not rely solely on physical attraction nor mere compatibilities. Learning what type of relationship is likely to be most fulfilling will be of great help in determining if he or she is a good 'match' and if you are wising up in your love search.
Jules Monty from http://www.mysearchingforlove.com
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Body Language and Its Importance
Whenever we communicate with others, apart from verbal communication, we also send out messages that are non-verbal in nature. Non-verbal behavior sends out strong, wordless signals depending on our gestures, our posture, how much of eye contact we make, etc.
Your body language can reiterate the same message that you are sending out verbally or it can send out a message that contradicts what you are saying. Sometimes, a gesture or a wordless signal can complement what you say. For instance, a pat on the back can act as reinforcement when you are verbally praising someone. Similarly, it can act as a substitute for a verbal message. For example, a smile is enough to indicate your acceptance or liking for something. You can also use body language to emphasize what you are saying say a gesture like banging on the table with your fist.
If you are aware of it's power it can help you read non-verbal clues given out by other people. At the same time, you can reiterate what you are saying to others through your body language and create trust. This also helps is building transparency in relationships. You can in turn reply to other people not just in words but also by using non-verbal clues.
Unfortunately, people who are not conscious of the non-verbal messages that they are sending out, tend to send out contradictory or confusing signals that are open to misinterpretation. This makes their relationships suffer.
When you are stressed out, you are more likely to send out confusing signals as well as read other people's body language inaccurately. If you feel this happening, stop, take a deep breath and start all over again. Make sure you reach your emotional balance before you start off on your conversation.
Another tip about non-verbal communication is to read body language as a group instead of individually. Take into account the tone, the facial expressions as well as the posture of the speaker before interpreting the signals. Avoid reading too much into a lone gesture.
Do not make the mistake of trying to alter your body language to cover up a lie. You are more likely than ever to send out mixed messages unless you are an accomplished actor. Your deception will get across sooner or later through some part of your body language.
It is good to know what your natural body language is like so that you don't adopt gestures or signals that are incompatible with your inherent style.
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Your body language can reiterate the same message that you are sending out verbally or it can send out a message that contradicts what you are saying. Sometimes, a gesture or a wordless signal can complement what you say. For instance, a pat on the back can act as reinforcement when you are verbally praising someone. Similarly, it can act as a substitute for a verbal message. For example, a smile is enough to indicate your acceptance or liking for something. You can also use body language to emphasize what you are saying say a gesture like banging on the table with your fist.
If you are aware of it's power it can help you read non-verbal clues given out by other people. At the same time, you can reiterate what you are saying to others through your body language and create trust. This also helps is building transparency in relationships. You can in turn reply to other people not just in words but also by using non-verbal clues.
Unfortunately, people who are not conscious of the non-verbal messages that they are sending out, tend to send out contradictory or confusing signals that are open to misinterpretation. This makes their relationships suffer.
When you are stressed out, you are more likely to send out confusing signals as well as read other people's body language inaccurately. If you feel this happening, stop, take a deep breath and start all over again. Make sure you reach your emotional balance before you start off on your conversation.
Another tip about non-verbal communication is to read body language as a group instead of individually. Take into account the tone, the facial expressions as well as the posture of the speaker before interpreting the signals. Avoid reading too much into a lone gesture.
Do not make the mistake of trying to alter your body language to cover up a lie. You are more likely than ever to send out mixed messages unless you are an accomplished actor. Your deception will get across sooner or later through some part of your body language.
It is good to know what your natural body language is like so that you don't adopt gestures or signals that are incompatible with your inherent style.
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Body Language Signs of Attraction - 3 Reliable Signs That Someone is Attracted to You
The body betrays what is inside our hearts and our minds. No wonder a lot of people have dedicated their whole lives to studying body language. Over the years, these experts have come up with many ways that a person can interpret non-verbal expressions. One of the more popular examples is body language signs of attraction.
Attraction has always been a hot topic among males and females. You're probably wondering what it is that might give you away or what it is that reveals a person's feelings for you. If you're ready to find out, read on for body language signs of attraction.
1) Crossed Legs Pointing Towards You
Most people don't notice it, but their legs naturally gravitate towards the people they like or are interested in. Lucky for you, this is something easily observed.
The next time you find yourself conversing with the person in question, check out which direction their crossed leg is pointed at. If it's pointed towards you, allow yourself a small smile of victory. But if it's not in your favor, don't think of the worst. Check out the other body language signs of attraction below for other hints.
2) Small Grooming Gestures
One way to tell when someone is interested is in how often they groom themselves when you two are together. The gesture could be as simple as adjusting the tie or tucking a strand of hair behind the ear. These may be small things but they mean a lot.
You have to be extra observant though or you won't catch the person in question doing any of these at all. After all, how long does it take for a person to touch their hair? If you blink, you might miss it.
3) Gazing Back and Forth
The beauty about body language signs of attraction is that it is mainly an unconscious reaction. People don't realize that they're doing it so you can observe them more freely.
One sign you can look at is when a person gazes at you every once in a while. This is definitely a sign of interest from the other person. You can actually catch them in the act if you so wish!
Body language signs of attraction are easy enough to interpret. You don't need to overanalyze every detail of a person's movements. All you have to do is observe key gestures that will reveal more or less a person's feelings towards you.
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Attraction has always been a hot topic among males and females. You're probably wondering what it is that might give you away or what it is that reveals a person's feelings for you. If you're ready to find out, read on for body language signs of attraction.
1) Crossed Legs Pointing Towards You
Most people don't notice it, but their legs naturally gravitate towards the people they like or are interested in. Lucky for you, this is something easily observed.
The next time you find yourself conversing with the person in question, check out which direction their crossed leg is pointed at. If it's pointed towards you, allow yourself a small smile of victory. But if it's not in your favor, don't think of the worst. Check out the other body language signs of attraction below for other hints.
2) Small Grooming Gestures
One way to tell when someone is interested is in how often they groom themselves when you two are together. The gesture could be as simple as adjusting the tie or tucking a strand of hair behind the ear. These may be small things but they mean a lot.
You have to be extra observant though or you won't catch the person in question doing any of these at all. After all, how long does it take for a person to touch their hair? If you blink, you might miss it.
3) Gazing Back and Forth
The beauty about body language signs of attraction is that it is mainly an unconscious reaction. People don't realize that they're doing it so you can observe them more freely.
One sign you can look at is when a person gazes at you every once in a while. This is definitely a sign of interest from the other person. You can actually catch them in the act if you so wish!
Body language signs of attraction are easy enough to interpret. You don't need to overanalyze every detail of a person's movements. All you have to do is observe key gestures that will reveal more or less a person's feelings towards you.
Now you can easily captivate the person of your dreams using the power of [http://www.20daypersuasion.com/]conversational hypnosis. Grab your FREE course that reveals 10 groundbreaking persuasion and communication secrets at http://www.20daypersuasion.com/secrets.htm
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Be Aware of Your Body Language When Doing Public Speaking
Are you the one who has a job that forces you to speak in public? As a public speaker, you should be aware of what your body is saying to your audience because when doing any form of public speaking, your body is your instrument. Even if you are simply nervous, shy, cold or physically uncomfortable, you must make your movements and stance correspond with your verbal delivery.
You should be aware of your body language from the moment you stand up until your presentation is complete because whether you are speaking or not and regardless of what you are or are not saying, your body is always communicating. Your body is always communicating messages that are magnified before an audience. Your audiences will analyze your body language, even if they are unaware of this at the conscious level.
There are four main aspects of body language that you should consider; what to do with your eyes, what your facial expressions indicate, the positioning and movement of your body and limbs, and your hand gestures.
During a presentation, a public speaker needs to make eye contact with the audiences even though that contact only lasts for 1-2 seconds per person. Making good eye contact with your audience helps you to regulate the communication flow and convey a sense of intimacy and warmth that you are really interested in your audience.
Have you ever seen someone who speaks without exhibiting any expressions at all? That is why, showing expression in public speaking is a must to make your audience feel more comfortable sitting there listening to you.
You should also plant yourself in one spot for the duration of your talk. However, if you speak for a long time, you can move occasionally. Pick a spot, walk there slowly, and remain there.
Related to your hand gestures, do not ever cross your arms because it creates an instant barrier between you and your audience. Public speakers who have a habit of standing with their arms crossed are seen as untrustworthy speakers.
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You should be aware of your body language from the moment you stand up until your presentation is complete because whether you are speaking or not and regardless of what you are or are not saying, your body is always communicating. Your body is always communicating messages that are magnified before an audience. Your audiences will analyze your body language, even if they are unaware of this at the conscious level.
There are four main aspects of body language that you should consider; what to do with your eyes, what your facial expressions indicate, the positioning and movement of your body and limbs, and your hand gestures.
During a presentation, a public speaker needs to make eye contact with the audiences even though that contact only lasts for 1-2 seconds per person. Making good eye contact with your audience helps you to regulate the communication flow and convey a sense of intimacy and warmth that you are really interested in your audience.
Have you ever seen someone who speaks without exhibiting any expressions at all? That is why, showing expression in public speaking is a must to make your audience feel more comfortable sitting there listening to you.
You should also plant yourself in one spot for the duration of your talk. However, if you speak for a long time, you can move occasionally. Pick a spot, walk there slowly, and remain there.
Related to your hand gestures, do not ever cross your arms because it creates an instant barrier between you and your audience. Public speakers who have a habit of standing with their arms crossed are seen as untrustworthy speakers.
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Public Speaking and the Importance of Body Language and Eye Contact
Public speaking is a necessary skill to have when you are trying to climb the success ladder or even trying to get through a project for school. A lot of people will tell you that when you are speaking in public to just picture everyone in their underwear, but that doesn't really work. When you are addressing an audience, you want to make sure that you are always away of certain key factors; your body language, your pronunciations, your eye contact with the audience, and your visual aids because it can never hurt to have people see an example of what you are talking about.
When it comes to your body language while speaking in public, there are a lot of habits that you do want to avoid doing. If you're nervous, you want to ensure that the audience you are addressing does not realize it. When you're in front of all those people, you want to make sure that you do not cross your legs or fidget with your feet. If you have a habit of crinkling things that are in your hand when you get nervous, try not to hold anything. Instead, what you may want to do is remember key phrases to remember your speech in its entirety. You must always remember to keep a solid stance as well, if you're shifting back in forth it may distract the audience from what you're trying to say. Your body language is a huge part in conveying your knowledge of the topic you are talking about.
Along with your body language, you want to always ensure that you pronounce your words correctly. A common problem with being nervous is you begin to stutter and aren't able to say your words correctly. If you're in front of the audience and you begin to st-st-st, people may begin to tone you out and no longer listen to what you have to say. Pronunciation is key in having your audience intrigued in what you have to say because if you use catching words, they're going to want to know more and stay intrigued to see what you have to say next.
While standing in front of an audience, you want to make sure that your eye contact is level with there. You don't want to stare at them, but glance around the room to let every person that is in the room know that you are talking to them. If you just stare at the floor the entire time, your audience may get the picture that you are not very confident and don't have a very good idea as to what you're talking about. If you're using index cards for your speech, you want to make sure that you just glance at them and that you aren't reading off of them. If you're just reading off of index cards, you audience may become bored. When pointing out portions of your visual aid, you want to ensure that you look into the audience while using the visual aid.
Now, if you're using a visual aid to further get your point across, you want to use as an enhancer not as the main part of the speech. When creating your visual aid, you want to make sure that it is big enough that the audience will be able to see it without much disruption in the room. Depending on the environment in which you're going to be speaking, you can either use bright and big displays or the typical official looking statistics. Whichever you use, you want to make sure that you point out what you're talking about while keeping eye contact with your audience.
If you use all these tips while giving a speech, you are most likely to get very positive results. You're more likely to get positive results because you'll show that you're confident in what you're presenting and that you have the knowledge required to present the item. Just always remember, body language, pronunciation, eye contact, and visual aids. Those are the keys to a fantastic speech.
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When it comes to your body language while speaking in public, there are a lot of habits that you do want to avoid doing. If you're nervous, you want to ensure that the audience you are addressing does not realize it. When you're in front of all those people, you want to make sure that you do not cross your legs or fidget with your feet. If you have a habit of crinkling things that are in your hand when you get nervous, try not to hold anything. Instead, what you may want to do is remember key phrases to remember your speech in its entirety. You must always remember to keep a solid stance as well, if you're shifting back in forth it may distract the audience from what you're trying to say. Your body language is a huge part in conveying your knowledge of the topic you are talking about.
Along with your body language, you want to always ensure that you pronounce your words correctly. A common problem with being nervous is you begin to stutter and aren't able to say your words correctly. If you're in front of the audience and you begin to st-st-st, people may begin to tone you out and no longer listen to what you have to say. Pronunciation is key in having your audience intrigued in what you have to say because if you use catching words, they're going to want to know more and stay intrigued to see what you have to say next.
While standing in front of an audience, you want to make sure that your eye contact is level with there. You don't want to stare at them, but glance around the room to let every person that is in the room know that you are talking to them. If you just stare at the floor the entire time, your audience may get the picture that you are not very confident and don't have a very good idea as to what you're talking about. If you're using index cards for your speech, you want to make sure that you just glance at them and that you aren't reading off of them. If you're just reading off of index cards, you audience may become bored. When pointing out portions of your visual aid, you want to ensure that you look into the audience while using the visual aid.
Now, if you're using a visual aid to further get your point across, you want to use as an enhancer not as the main part of the speech. When creating your visual aid, you want to make sure that it is big enough that the audience will be able to see it without much disruption in the room. Depending on the environment in which you're going to be speaking, you can either use bright and big displays or the typical official looking statistics. Whichever you use, you want to make sure that you point out what you're talking about while keeping eye contact with your audience.
If you use all these tips while giving a speech, you are most likely to get very positive results. You're more likely to get positive results because you'll show that you're confident in what you're presenting and that you have the knowledge required to present the item. Just always remember, body language, pronunciation, eye contact, and visual aids. Those are the keys to a fantastic speech.
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Body Language in Business - How to Find the Most Important Person in the Room
Networking events. Association meetings. Conferences. Regional meetings. Trade shows. Each of these events represents an opportunity. Making the sale. Making the right connection. Exchanging business cards with the right person.
But how do you know who Mr. or Ms. Right is? Who is the person who can green light your product or service within their company?
One option is the internet. Do your research, find the bigwig's name, do a Google Image search, and you have your target. At the event, you can scan the room until you see the person and introduce yourself.
But what if that's not possible? What if they don't show up? What if Google Image search pulls up nothing? What if you're not sure who your ideal target is?
Thankfully, when this happens, you don't have to randomly approach people and hope they are your mark. You can be a detective at all your future business meetings and use the skills of deciphering body language to discover the most important people in any group.
After speaking at an event, I went to the hotel's lounge to relax and unwind. Wanting to enjoy some alone time, I sat in the far corner booth and began one of my favorite activities: people watching.
There was another conference at the hotel and some of their attendees came to the lounge for a social hour. At first everyone was shaking hands, welcoming one another and being very friendly. After awhile the large group started splitting up into subgroups. 5 women chatting at one table. 3 men laughing at another. 2 women standing and gossiping. But, there was one subgroup that caught my attention.
I noticed 3 gentlemen. One tall, good posture, well dressed. The second was of average height, well dressed, good posture. The third was short, had poor posture, and was - quite frankly - poorly dressed. Who is the most important person of the group?
Most people would say one of the first two gentlemen. They had strong posture, knew how to carry themselves, and their clothing reeked of success. Most people would be wrong.
After knowing a few body language basics, you would know to look more closely. While posture and clothing are good variables to observe, they are surface level indicators that can easily and consciously be altered for any situation. As a body language pro, you would want to look at the unconscious indicators to discover your alpha-person of the group.
In this case - as in most - the feet gave it away. Even though the men were standing in a circle, politely facing each other and looking at one another while they spoke, the feet pointed toward Mr. Important himself, gentleman #3. That's right. Mr. slumped-over-I-don't-need-to-iron-my-clothes-or-put-together-a-snazzy-outfit-like-the-rest-of-you.
The feet of the other two gentlemen were pointed directly at guy #3 like a pointing dog during the hunt. The feet give away so much information unconsciously. They almost always will point towards the direction where you want to be or towards the person you perceive to be the most important person in the conversation.(Where was Mr. Important's feet pointing? The door.)
While initial looks might lead you to one conclusion, body language will give you the power to detect the subtleties that lead you to the truth.
Use this body language detective skill for your next meeting. If you want to converse with the "top dog" just follow the feet.
Shari' Alexander is a business presentation strategist and professional speaker who helps professionals get what they want when they speak. As the owner of Presenting Matters, her many clients have included an Emmy Award winning executive, an NFL player, and an ESPN announcer. Shari''s articles and advice have been featured in many international publications. Shari' is available for keynotes and seminars and may be reached at 918.346.8506 or [mailto:shari@presentingmatters.com]shari@presentingmatters.com.
Article Source: [http://EzineArticles.com/?Body-Language-in-Business---How-to-Find-the-Most-Important-Person-in-the-Room&id=3117655] Body Language in Business - How to Find the Most Important Person in the Room
But how do you know who Mr. or Ms. Right is? Who is the person who can green light your product or service within their company?
One option is the internet. Do your research, find the bigwig's name, do a Google Image search, and you have your target. At the event, you can scan the room until you see the person and introduce yourself.
But what if that's not possible? What if they don't show up? What if Google Image search pulls up nothing? What if you're not sure who your ideal target is?
Thankfully, when this happens, you don't have to randomly approach people and hope they are your mark. You can be a detective at all your future business meetings and use the skills of deciphering body language to discover the most important people in any group.
After speaking at an event, I went to the hotel's lounge to relax and unwind. Wanting to enjoy some alone time, I sat in the far corner booth and began one of my favorite activities: people watching.
There was another conference at the hotel and some of their attendees came to the lounge for a social hour. At first everyone was shaking hands, welcoming one another and being very friendly. After awhile the large group started splitting up into subgroups. 5 women chatting at one table. 3 men laughing at another. 2 women standing and gossiping. But, there was one subgroup that caught my attention.
I noticed 3 gentlemen. One tall, good posture, well dressed. The second was of average height, well dressed, good posture. The third was short, had poor posture, and was - quite frankly - poorly dressed. Who is the most important person of the group?
Most people would say one of the first two gentlemen. They had strong posture, knew how to carry themselves, and their clothing reeked of success. Most people would be wrong.
After knowing a few body language basics, you would know to look more closely. While posture and clothing are good variables to observe, they are surface level indicators that can easily and consciously be altered for any situation. As a body language pro, you would want to look at the unconscious indicators to discover your alpha-person of the group.
In this case - as in most - the feet gave it away. Even though the men were standing in a circle, politely facing each other and looking at one another while they spoke, the feet pointed toward Mr. Important himself, gentleman #3. That's right. Mr. slumped-over-I-don't-need-to-iron-my-clothes-or-put-together-a-snazzy-outfit-like-the-rest-of-you.
The feet of the other two gentlemen were pointed directly at guy #3 like a pointing dog during the hunt. The feet give away so much information unconsciously. They almost always will point towards the direction where you want to be or towards the person you perceive to be the most important person in the conversation.(Where was Mr. Important's feet pointing? The door.)
While initial looks might lead you to one conclusion, body language will give you the power to detect the subtleties that lead you to the truth.
Use this body language detective skill for your next meeting. If you want to converse with the "top dog" just follow the feet.
Shari' Alexander is a business presentation strategist and professional speaker who helps professionals get what they want when they speak. As the owner of Presenting Matters, her many clients have included an Emmy Award winning executive, an NFL player, and an ESPN announcer. Shari''s articles and advice have been featured in many international publications. Shari' is available for keynotes and seminars and may be reached at 918.346.8506 or [mailto:shari@presentingmatters.com]shari@presentingmatters.com.
Article Source: [http://EzineArticles.com/?Body-Language-in-Business---How-to-Find-the-Most-Important-Person-in-the-Room&id=3117655] Body Language in Business - How to Find the Most Important Person in the Room
Thursday, October 15, 2009
What Should Be the Body Language During Conversation?
Body language is very important part of our communication. Most of the communication is done by our body languages. If our body language is good we can be a good communicator. To identify the differences between good and bad language during conversation one should understand the basics of body language. It can be identify when taking instructions or receiving criticism from a supervisor. You can practice good body posture during a conversation and practice good body language while a manager is giving instructions or criticizing.
Instructional format is mainly involved modeling and role-playing. Start the session by taking about the importance of how one looks on the outside during communications with others. If a person looks unresponsive during a discussion, he will have a hard time making and keeping associates. If a person looks irritated or annoyed when his boss tells him to do something, his boss may think he has awful approach. It is supportive to video-tape role-plays. If you have the tools, it is highly suggested.
Model both bad and good body language during a discussion. Have the person try to recognize whether you have good or bad body language. Good body posture involves keeping good individual space, making eye contact, sitting or standing up straight, and looking concerned. When you are doing the awful role-play, do only one thing wrong (stare at the floor, turn body to one side scowl, fidget, rock back and forth cross arms, slump, etc.), and see if the person can recognize what you are doing incorrect. Instruct person on good body posture during discussion and when supervisors are giving instructions. Have the person practice the skills in role-plays. The components of good posture during spoken message mainly involve not doing the bad things mentioned above. But, it is vital to take care of eye contact, keep still, personal space and posture.
Maintain eye contact by looking at the person the majority of the time, but not more than 15 seconds at a time. Don't fidgets shake back and forth, play with hairs or cloths. It is hard to chat when you are 10 feet apart, but you do not wish for to be 6 inches apart either. Generally, 2-3 feet is a comfortable distance for most people during conversation. Sitting up straight or even openness toward the speaker lets the person know you are paying attention.
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Instructional format is mainly involved modeling and role-playing. Start the session by taking about the importance of how one looks on the outside during communications with others. If a person looks unresponsive during a discussion, he will have a hard time making and keeping associates. If a person looks irritated or annoyed when his boss tells him to do something, his boss may think he has awful approach. It is supportive to video-tape role-plays. If you have the tools, it is highly suggested.
Model both bad and good body language during a discussion. Have the person try to recognize whether you have good or bad body language. Good body posture involves keeping good individual space, making eye contact, sitting or standing up straight, and looking concerned. When you are doing the awful role-play, do only one thing wrong (stare at the floor, turn body to one side scowl, fidget, rock back and forth cross arms, slump, etc.), and see if the person can recognize what you are doing incorrect. Instruct person on good body posture during discussion and when supervisors are giving instructions. Have the person practice the skills in role-plays. The components of good posture during spoken message mainly involve not doing the bad things mentioned above. But, it is vital to take care of eye contact, keep still, personal space and posture.
Maintain eye contact by looking at the person the majority of the time, but not more than 15 seconds at a time. Don't fidgets shake back and forth, play with hairs or cloths. It is hard to chat when you are 10 feet apart, but you do not wish for to be 6 inches apart either. Generally, 2-3 feet is a comfortable distance for most people during conversation. Sitting up straight or even openness toward the speaker lets the person know you are paying attention.
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Tell if somebody is lying
They say, Face is the index of the mind and this is true to a great extent because you can discern if a person is not speaking the truth by just looking at the body language lying signs. It is wise to know these signs as they are an instrument that you can use in situations where a person is lying. If you have a friend or a person close to you it is always important to know this.
When two people are communicating with each other, it is not just talking that happens, but also several gestures that accompany the conversation and this is what is most important in figuring out body language lying signs. You could look out for a certain signs if you feel that a person is lying and a few of these body language lying signs are given below.
• If a person is not looking you in the eye but looking down or elsewhere you can be sure that he is lying. Loss of eye contact is the most important body language lying signs.
• You should take into consideration several body language lying signs from different parts of the body. For instance, the voice of a person who is lying is prone to tremble.
• The speed at which a person is talking is also to be considered when you are looking for body language lying signs. Liars tend to speak rapidly and they might shift from subject to subject very fast and also talk without sense.
• Touching the nose constantly while speaking and also scratching the ears is another sign that you can look for in a liar.
It is always important to know how to identify a liar as this has a lot of importance in all aspects of your life. You will find liars at your place of work or even n your family and you need to be equipped to identify such people.
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When two people are communicating with each other, it is not just talking that happens, but also several gestures that accompany the conversation and this is what is most important in figuring out body language lying signs. You could look out for a certain signs if you feel that a person is lying and a few of these body language lying signs are given below.
• If a person is not looking you in the eye but looking down or elsewhere you can be sure that he is lying. Loss of eye contact is the most important body language lying signs.
• You should take into consideration several body language lying signs from different parts of the body. For instance, the voice of a person who is lying is prone to tremble.
• The speed at which a person is talking is also to be considered when you are looking for body language lying signs. Liars tend to speak rapidly and they might shift from subject to subject very fast and also talk without sense.
• Touching the nose constantly while speaking and also scratching the ears is another sign that you can look for in a liar.
It is always important to know how to identify a liar as this has a lot of importance in all aspects of your life. You will find liars at your place of work or even n your family and you need to be equipped to identify such people.
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Job Interview Body Language - The 7 Most Essential Skills
In these current economic conditions, opportunities to secure a new job are becoming more difficult. Having a great resume and pertinent past experience is important, but is not enough. You are just one of several other candidates who meet the specific requirements for that position. You need to gain an advantage by executing the perfect job interview. Here are the seven most essential skills you need to perform, to complete the ideal job interview.
1. Your Appearance
Making a good first impression is critical. Studies have shown that people can make up their minds, about the type of person you are, in as little as seven seconds. With such a small window of opportunity, every moment counts. Start by making sure you are well groomed. It's important that your hair is cut and styled appropriately for the business setting. Your hands are always visible, so make sure your fingernails are clean, trimmed and/or polished. Tattoos and excessive piercings, while popular, are still controversial in a business environment. Remove any excessive piercings and consider covering your tattoos with either clothing or make-up.
Clothes should be properly tailored. For men a nicely tailored suit will accentuate wide shoulders and a tapered waist. Women should avoid wearing a skirt that is too short or anything that is too tight. Buttons should not look ready to pop. Wear clothing that defines your waistline; loose or shapeless garments will not produce a flattering look.
2. Posture
Good posture reflects many positive attributes and makes you look taller. Studies show, in the business world, that taller people usually have an advantage. It will also make you appear more confident. A confident look portrays intelligence and likability.
To check your posture, stand in front of a mirror. Place your back up against a wall and make sure your shoulders, butt and heels are touching the wall. Look into the mirror. This is how you look with great posture. Now close your eyes and step away from the wall. Take note how you feel, this will help ingrain this position into your memory. Practice this daily until it becomes second nature.
3. Smile
Smiles are contagious. When you smile, you are judged to be more sincere, sociable and competent. However, smiles need to be genuine. Most people can easily identify a fake smile, because it does not create the same positive emotions. A fake smile uses only the muscles around the mouth. Good examples of a fake smile can usually be found in your family photo albums. A forced smile, such as when you are asked to say cheese for a photograph, does not use the entire face. Genuine smiles show throughout your entire face. The crow's feet around your eyes will begin to show, your cheeks will rise slightly and your teeth will be fully visible.
Practice holding a sheet of paper just under your eyes as you look into a mirror. The paper should cover both your nose and mouth, now smile. Continue working on your smile until you can identify, by only looking at your eyes, that you are indeed smiling. Models and actors do this all the time. It is a skill you can easily improve.
4. Eye Contact
Good eye contact is essential, but you can overdo it. Constantly peering or staring into someone's eyes, will begin to make them feel uncomfortable. You need to create a balance. Strive to maintain eye contact about 80% of the time. It is O.K. to look away slightly, as you think of an answer to a question or another good method is to rotate your eyes around the person's face. Instead of staring at one point, move your look around from eye to eye and the mouth of the interviewer. This is known as a business or social eye rotation and is highly recommended for the business environment.
5. Mirroring
Have you ever met a stranger at a party or social gathering and immediately had an instant rapport? Seems like you've been friends for years. Sometimes this is due to common interests, but a bigger influence is that both of you will use similar body positions or gestures. Example: if you're standing with one arm resting on the back of a chair with your feet crossed, you'll find the other person in a reflective pose with their arms and legs in the same position. Only they will use the opposite arm and leg, like you are looking into a mirror and seeing a reflection of yourself. In most cases, we like people who are just like us, your subconscious see what looks to be a reflection of ourselves and an instant rapport begins to build without us even understanding why. Many successful salespersons use this "mirroring" technique to their advantage to create a comfort level and trust with their clients.
Mirroring your interviewer can create this same bond and help give you an advantage. As your interview progresses, simply begin to move your body to reflect the same position as your interviewer. If your interviewer moves into a different position you do the same, but be careful not to move immediately or too obviously. You don't want to come across as mocking or disrespectful. Take your time, move a different part of your body, one posture at a time, until you come into a reflective position.
6. Know Yourself
This seems to be pretty obvious, but people make mistakes all the time because they haven't taken the time to become familiar with their own resume. Your interviewer will have already looked over your resume and will use it to formulate questions. Being caught off guard with a question about your past work experience, does not look good. It can hurt your confidence and may give the impression that the information you are providing is false. Make sure you review all the information on your resume and have a good understanding of the image you want to present. Anticipate which questions can be gleaned from your past record and have answers at the ready.
7. Treat Everybody as a Decision Maker
You are being evaluated right from the beginning. Everybody you speak with, either on the phone or in person may have an input on whether you would be a good choice for that position. Never assume someone doesn't have an input or isn't important. I know of a situation in which one person lost an offer simply because they were rude to the receptionist. This person had all the qualifications and presented well during the job interview process. The company was even about to make an offer, until the human resources representative had lunch with her friend, the receptionist. The conversation didn't bode well for the interviewee and they decided to offer the position to another candidate. Remember to treat everybody as if they are a decision maker and be genuine about it.
1. Your Appearance
Making a good first impression is critical. Studies have shown that people can make up their minds, about the type of person you are, in as little as seven seconds. With such a small window of opportunity, every moment counts. Start by making sure you are well groomed. It's important that your hair is cut and styled appropriately for the business setting. Your hands are always visible, so make sure your fingernails are clean, trimmed and/or polished. Tattoos and excessive piercings, while popular, are still controversial in a business environment. Remove any excessive piercings and consider covering your tattoos with either clothing or make-up.
Clothes should be properly tailored. For men a nicely tailored suit will accentuate wide shoulders and a tapered waist. Women should avoid wearing a skirt that is too short or anything that is too tight. Buttons should not look ready to pop. Wear clothing that defines your waistline; loose or shapeless garments will not produce a flattering look.
2. Posture
Good posture reflects many positive attributes and makes you look taller. Studies show, in the business world, that taller people usually have an advantage. It will also make you appear more confident. A confident look portrays intelligence and likability.
To check your posture, stand in front of a mirror. Place your back up against a wall and make sure your shoulders, butt and heels are touching the wall. Look into the mirror. This is how you look with great posture. Now close your eyes and step away from the wall. Take note how you feel, this will help ingrain this position into your memory. Practice this daily until it becomes second nature.
3. Smile
Smiles are contagious. When you smile, you are judged to be more sincere, sociable and competent. However, smiles need to be genuine. Most people can easily identify a fake smile, because it does not create the same positive emotions. A fake smile uses only the muscles around the mouth. Good examples of a fake smile can usually be found in your family photo albums. A forced smile, such as when you are asked to say cheese for a photograph, does not use the entire face. Genuine smiles show throughout your entire face. The crow's feet around your eyes will begin to show, your cheeks will rise slightly and your teeth will be fully visible.
Practice holding a sheet of paper just under your eyes as you look into a mirror. The paper should cover both your nose and mouth, now smile. Continue working on your smile until you can identify, by only looking at your eyes, that you are indeed smiling. Models and actors do this all the time. It is a skill you can easily improve.
4. Eye Contact
Good eye contact is essential, but you can overdo it. Constantly peering or staring into someone's eyes, will begin to make them feel uncomfortable. You need to create a balance. Strive to maintain eye contact about 80% of the time. It is O.K. to look away slightly, as you think of an answer to a question or another good method is to rotate your eyes around the person's face. Instead of staring at one point, move your look around from eye to eye and the mouth of the interviewer. This is known as a business or social eye rotation and is highly recommended for the business environment.
5. Mirroring
Have you ever met a stranger at a party or social gathering and immediately had an instant rapport? Seems like you've been friends for years. Sometimes this is due to common interests, but a bigger influence is that both of you will use similar body positions or gestures. Example: if you're standing with one arm resting on the back of a chair with your feet crossed, you'll find the other person in a reflective pose with their arms and legs in the same position. Only they will use the opposite arm and leg, like you are looking into a mirror and seeing a reflection of yourself. In most cases, we like people who are just like us, your subconscious see what looks to be a reflection of ourselves and an instant rapport begins to build without us even understanding why. Many successful salespersons use this "mirroring" technique to their advantage to create a comfort level and trust with their clients.
Mirroring your interviewer can create this same bond and help give you an advantage. As your interview progresses, simply begin to move your body to reflect the same position as your interviewer. If your interviewer moves into a different position you do the same, but be careful not to move immediately or too obviously. You don't want to come across as mocking or disrespectful. Take your time, move a different part of your body, one posture at a time, until you come into a reflective position.
6. Know Yourself
This seems to be pretty obvious, but people make mistakes all the time because they haven't taken the time to become familiar with their own resume. Your interviewer will have already looked over your resume and will use it to formulate questions. Being caught off guard with a question about your past work experience, does not look good. It can hurt your confidence and may give the impression that the information you are providing is false. Make sure you review all the information on your resume and have a good understanding of the image you want to present. Anticipate which questions can be gleaned from your past record and have answers at the ready.
7. Treat Everybody as a Decision Maker
You are being evaluated right from the beginning. Everybody you speak with, either on the phone or in person may have an input on whether you would be a good choice for that position. Never assume someone doesn't have an input or isn't important. I know of a situation in which one person lost an offer simply because they were rude to the receptionist. This person had all the qualifications and presented well during the job interview process. The company was even about to make an offer, until the human resources representative had lunch with her friend, the receptionist. The conversation didn't bode well for the interviewee and they decided to offer the position to another candidate. Remember to treat everybody as if they are a decision maker and be genuine about it.
Thursday, October 8, 2009
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